ONE BEDROOM FLAT - Written by an Indian Software Engineer
As the dream of most parents I had acquired a degree in Software Engineer and joined a company based in USA, the land of braves and opportunity. When I arrived in the USA, it was as if a dream had come true.
Here at last I was in the place where I want to be. I decided I would be staying in this country for about Five years in which time I would have earned enough money to settle down in India.
My father was a government employee and after his retirement, the only asset he could acquire was a decent one bedroom flat.
I wanted to do some thing more than him. I started feeling homesick and lonely as the time passed. I used to call home and speak to my parents every week using cheap international phone cards. Two years passed, two years of Burgers at McDonald’s and pizzas and discos and 2 years watching the foreign exchange rate getting happy whenever the Rupee value went down.
Finally I decided to get married. Told my parents that I have only 10 days of holidays and everything must be done within these 10 days. I got my ticket booked in the cheapest flight. Was jubilant and was actually enjoying hopping for gifts for all my friends back home. If I miss anyone then there will be talks. After reaching home I spent home one week going through all the photographs of girls and as the time was getting shorter I was forced to select one candidate.
In-laws told me, to my surprise, that I would have to get married in 2-3 days, as I will not get anymore holidays. After the marriage, it was time to return to USA, after giving some money to my parents and telling the neighbors to look after them, we returned to USA.
My wife enjoyed this country for about two months and then she started feeling lonely. The frequency of calling India increased to twice in a week sometimes 3 times a week. Our savings started diminishing. After two more years we started to have kids. Two lovely kids, a boy and a girl, were gifted to us by the almighty. Every time I spoke to my parents, they asked me to come to India so that they can see their grand-children.
Every year I decide to go to India. But part work part monetary conditions prevented it. Years went by and visiting India was a distant dream. Then suddenly one day I got a message that my parents were seriously sick. I tried but I couldn’t get any holidays and thus could not go to India. The next message I got was my parents had passed away and as there was no one to do the last rights. The society members had done whatever they could. I was depressed. My parents had passed away without seeing their grand children.
After couple more years passed away, much to my children’s dislike and my wife’s joy we returned to India to settle down. I started to look for a suitable property, but to my dismay my savings were short and the property prices had gone up during all these years. I had to return to the USA.
My wife refused to come back with me and my children refused to stay in India. My 2 children and I returned to USA after promising my wife that I would be back for good after two years.
Time passed by, my daughter decided to get married to an American and my son was happy living in USA. I decided that had enough and wound-up every thing and returned to India. I had just enough money to buy a decent 2 bedroom flat in a well-developed locality.
Now I am 60 years old and the only time I go out of the flat is for the routine visit to the nearby temple. My faithful wife has also left me and gone to the holy abode.
Sometimes I wondered was it worth all this? My father, even after staying in India, had a house to his name and I too have the same nothing more.
I lost my parents and children for just ONE EXTRA BEDROOM.
Looking out from the window I see a lot of children dancing. This damned cable TV has spoiled our new generation and these children are losing their values and culture because of it. I get occasional cards from my children asking I am alright. Well at least they remember me.
Now perhaps after I die it will be the neighbors again who will be performing my last rights, God Bless them. But the question still remains ’Was all this worth it?’
I am still searching for an answer................!!!!God Bless everyone !!!
Everyone is going to USA knowing whatever you are telling. The problem is that Indians are taught that who so ever reaches USA gets money power and becomes successful. This is absolutely wrong. Success has got a lot of strings attached. It?s not only money but good social life, helping people, struggling bravely, facing both good and worst phases, children and parent?s love, loving and caring wife, love of your countrymen, serving the nation etc. But the fact is we forget all this and we run after money at the cost of more important things in life.
I am speechless. This year I am too a software engineer and this year I got an oppurtunity through H1B Visa for U.S. Yes! everything is ready- Passport, Appointment Letter, Visa. It is really very hard to stay away from family and and I understood that living life with parents and family is different happiness than any other. Yes! I just changed my decision for U.S. after reading your story. Yes! I will serve my India with whatever qualities I have. Disco-Fun all are present here also. So why not here? Thanks Sir! And yes you are a good son, husband & father. I will remember your story. May God Bless You!
Thank you for sharing. That was very touching. May Krishna bless you. Namaste, Michael J. Green Stockton, California USA
Speechless. "No words to say" I got carried away.
To the engineer who wrote his story. My answer can not probably satisfy you but I want to share my inspiring words to you. All you?ve done is worth it!!! You never stop loving your parents and they both know that. God sees the entire situation that we can?t hold the time sometimes. Life is not always what we wanted to be. I?m sure your parents and wife would understand. You might have the feeling of depression and guilt because after all the effort you?ve done there is no earthly things as a prize that you can at least have kept. But you forget that God is still giving you the precious life? What if He took you from all your family when your children are still young would you still choose it? Things are just a thing you might have saved a million dollar and bought a palace from your savings and after all what? Can we make our life immortal and stay in this world and feel the treasure that we have saved? The answer is no. We all don?t have any choice of our life there is no such thing as guarantee of happiness. You are such a great son, husband and a good father of your children and a perfect person towards others. Not everybody can maintain the same responsibilities. Some son was never been once a good child to their parents, some husband they never be even a real and true husband of their wives, some father never even give chance to let their children live and breath because of a fear of responsibility, now tell me? Is all the things that you did are worth it? Of course the answer is yes. All you did to your parents, wife and children is the thing that money can?t buy. You might have little house but you still have life to live that?s the unexplainable gift that God has given to you. A chance to live in this world for that long is more than a reason of your question. You are a gifted person who happens to share your story to everyone. Good Luck!